Since Twitter first became a thing, I have never really been interested. I just never understood the point. However, since venturing in the world of writing and publishing, I have felt it is important to connect with other authors like myself.
I created a Twitter Account for 5 reasons…
1. Connect with other authors
2. Give my book and future books more exposure.
3. Become inspired by by various writing prompts, thoughts and current events.
4. To provide real time updates and progress on my writing.
5. To try something new.
Twitter is still very new to me and I don’t fully understand it… but I’m willing to give it a whirl.
If you’re bored, interested or curious, feel free to give me a follow over on Twitter!
Training a Cat is fun, but also takes a lot of hard work. I’m no expert, but I have trained cats in the past and I am currently training Rocky different commands and tricks. So, I thought I would share with you the basics on training a cat, based on my own experience.
When training a cat you need to be persistent, have patience and a lot of rewards.
Teaching a Cat How to Sit
I have taught Rocky since the day I adopted him that he needs to sit before he can get his food. At first he didn’t want to do it. Now he does it every time. Sometimes he sits on his own and sometimes he needs a little assistance.
First, I put my finger up and tell him to sit.
Then, I gently push down his lower back so he will sit. Once he is sitting, I praise him by saying “Good Boy” and rubbing his head.
I then give him his bowl of food.
I have done this process since day one and with a lot of persistence and patience, he’s come a long way.
Teaching a Cat How to Fetch
Recently, I started teaching Rocky how to fetch. He’s made some progress but still has a long way to go.
First, I waited to see if he was even interested in fetching. Meaning I would throw different toys and waited to see if he attempted to bring any back to me. Once he did this a couple times, I knew he was ready.
When teaching a cat to fetch, you have to get excited. If your not excited to play, they won’t be excited to bring the toy back to you.
I quickly learned that Rocky is particular when it comes to fetching. He likes to search for his toy. Meaning if I just throw a toy on the floor, he won’t get it. But if I throw a toy in a paper bag or on the couch, he’ll go find it.
First, I shake the toy.
Then, I throw it and tell him to go get it. I make sure his eyes are on me as I’m throwing it.
As he goes to find it, I’m quiet.
Once I see he’s picked it up, I say “Good Boy” and pat the ground so he’ll drop it near me.
If he does this, I give him praise by saying “Good Boy” and rubbing his head and belly. If he doesn’t do this, I don’t give him praise.
This may only occur two or three times before your cat gets bored. But over time, it should develop a habit for your cat to want to play fetch often.
Well, there you go. Those are my few tips on training your cat. If you need additional help, check out different YouTube videos.
Today’s the day! It’s August 30th, which was the deadline for my summer bucket list. To be honest, I did not get nearly as many goals accomplished that I had hoped. However, my summer has been quite more busy than I anticipated as well. So, I’ll take what I can get. I hope everyone’s summer has not only been productive but also restful. The following is a list of my summer goals, and how I may or may not have accomplished them.
Goals Met This Summer
1. Grow my Plants and Produce Fruits, Veggies and Spices
This summer, I am proud to say that I actually had a successful garden. I think I planted a total of 13-15 plants since April. Out of all of those I have had about 7 survive. And considering the fact that I used to kill all my plants I ever owned, I would say it was quite an accomplishment. This summer I was able to successfully grow and produce a ton of chives as well as four green peppers!
2. Visit the Lake Shore At Least Once.
In late June, I was able to complete this goal when going on a weekend vacation with my friend Alli. It was warm, beautiful and wonderfully relaxing.
3. Have a Game Night with Friends
In June, Charles and I also had a dinner and game night with friends in our apartment. It was fun to be able to entertain and visit with company.
4. Create and Commit to a Yoga Routine.
This goal was hard to complete, but I would say I have definitely gotten a routine down and completed this goal. For a while, I was very unmotivated to do yoga. I was exhausted, eating junk and living off caffeine. So much so, I forgot how to breathe and how to relax. But now, I have been doing mini yoga workouts a few times a week. I have even taught my preschoolers a few poses.
5. Write and Publish a Children’s Book.
I think everyone knows I completed this goal, and I am so excited for it. My book launched at the end of July and has been pretty successful. I am so thankful I have been able to create something in honor of my babies, and in order to help families who are coping with pregnancy loss.
Goals Not Met This Summer
1. Finish First Draft of Memoir
I haven’t finished this goal yet, but I have made some progress. I am strategically working on different chapters, in hopes of having the first draft done very soon.
2. Crochet a Large Blanket
I didn’t end up finishing this goal either. To be honest, I was not in the mood to crochet much this summer. It has been very hot and just not something I found myself interested in.
3. Apply and Receive my Family Life Education Certification
I haven’t completed this goal yet, and frankly I kind of forgot. It was something I put on the back burner, hoping to get to after Covid. But since Covid isn’t going away anytime soon, I guess it is probably something I should try and figure out.
4. Write and Post 200 Blog Posts.
I was so close to this goal, but I just didn’t quite make it. Including this post, I have written 180 blog posts! I was 20 short of my goal. But that’s okay, maybe next time.
5. Buy a Coffee Table for my Living Room
I haven’t completed this goal. I have had a few expenses come up including a flat tire, a kitten, an antenna etc. Eventually though, I hope to get a coffee table.
What’s my why? What’s the reason I get up everyday? What’s the reason I go to work and teach my preschoolers Monday through Friday? What’s the reason I spend hours writing my books, writing blog posts, and making a point to help others who are struggling. Why do I do what I do? What’s my why?
I get up everyday to help others. It’s what I’m meant to do. It’s my purpose. But often times, I forget about myself. I forget that I need to be taken care of too. I forget that as much as I open my heart to so many children, mommas and people, that I usually forget about my own heart and that it too needs to be nurtured.
Many years ago I developed a passion, a divine destiny, and longing to work with children. Throughout the years I have studied, and learned how to love, teach and admire each individual child that enters my life. Each child has their challenges, their own strengths, and their own story. And though I don’t always know how long each child will be in my life, it is my job as a teacher and as a person to show them love because that is the best gift I can give them.
My job can be so incredibly rewarding. I have built long lasting relationships with families, children I have taught, coworkers and other fellow teachers. Many of these people have seen me at my best and my worst. All of these people hold a special place in my heart.
Through my job as a teacher and as someone who loves kids, it can be very rewarding. It can also be very challenging.
Working with children is no easy task. It can be exhausting and emotionally draining. My patience is tested daily and sometimes hourly. I am constantly making decisions, considering choices, choosing my words, and considering how my actions can best teach and set a positive example for my kiddos. It’s not easy, but certainly not impossible.
Teaching has always emotionally affected me, as I am taking care of someone else’s kids when I so desperately desire to have my own. After suffering two miscarriages and reentering the education field, I am even more aware and emotionally affected by the reminder that I still don’t have my own healthy children.
I’m not going to sugar coat it. It sucks. It really really sucks. It’s not fair. It hurts. It’s hard. But I deal with it. Somehow I find the strength to get through it. Everyday, I ask the question, why?Why don’t I have kids yet? Why did we have to lose two babies? Why have we had to go through this? I wish I knew the answers, but I don’t think I ever will.
Through a lot of time, reflection, and healing I have seen how much of my grief, and frustration was turned into something good and used to help others. I started a blog. I’ve shared my story in person and in a magazine. I wrote a children’s book. I have connected with many women around the world who have gone through the same thing. My grief did not happen in vain, it was used to help others.
So you see, the reason I get up everyday to teach children, write blog posts, and bond with other women, is because it’s my purpose in life. It’s what I was made to do. Because of what I have went through, I am able to love and appreciate the children in my life probably more than I ever would have if I hadn’t experienced what I have. Without going through the trauma and loss I did, I wouldn’t have started a blog. I wouldn’t have felt so inspired to write and share my story. Without the bad things happening in my life, I wouldn’t appreciate the good things.
I do what I do because I love and want to help people.
I want to help moms, women, children and families. I want to help all of you. I want to support you, encourage you, guide you and strengthen you. I want to be there for you. That also means I need to be there for myself. I need to take care of me and be kind to myself while I also help others.
Again, it’s not always easy…. and it still really hurts that I am not a mom to babies here on earth. But I take it day by day, and know that my work on this earth is not going unnoticed. I love you all and I am here if you need anything. That is why I do this.
On April 25th, 2019 I wrote my first blog post called A Leap of Faith. Over the last 16 months I have wrote on average 5 posts a month. Let me tell you I have learned so much about blogging, marketing and writing. I truly love it. Blogging has opened up many opportunities for me to become vulnerable, create my legacy and brand, become various brand ambassadors, share my story, help others and even become a published author. Now I’m not an expert when it comes to blogging as I know I still have a lot to learn. However, I would like to take a moment to share a few tips on becoming a blogger.
Your Blog’s Purpose
Before creating a blog, it’s important to have a general idea on what your blog is going to be about. The purpose of your blog can change over time, but it is important to stick to one or a couple general ideas so you have a targeted audience you are trying to reach. For example, when i first wrote my blog, the entire purpose was to share my story about miscarriage. However, since starting my blog it has very much evolved into other themes, including Lifestyle, Selfcare, Grief and Miscarriage.
2. Consider Your Audience
Like i mentioned above, it is important to consider who your audience will be. For example, i would say my audience is a mixture of women, moms, angel moms, writers, and teachers. I have this audience because of the things I write about on my blog. If your audience can relate to it, then they are more likely to follow you on your blogging journey.
3. Be Consistent
This tip is huge, and probably the most important. It is very important to be consistent when writing and publishing blog posts. If you post consistently, you are more likely to grow your audience as they are likely to read your posts and anticipate when you will post again. When I say be consistent, I mean you should probably be writing a blog post once a week. If you write a blog post once every two months or when ever you remember, it is likely you will lose or not grow your audience. It is also a great idea to schedule blog posts. I often do this if I know I am going to be busy. This allows me to be consistent with my audience, but not constantly feel like I am on a deadline.
4. Promote Your Blog
This is such a good idea especially if you are hoping to gain followers and grow your audience. I use a variety of platforms to promote my blog including Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest. Pinterest is probably my favorite as it is easy for people to search a particular topic, and click on the link to my blog. I also enjoy using Instagram as many of my Instagram followers can follow along on my blogging journey.
5. Take Risks
When creating a blog, you are essentially creating your own public journal. It’s yours to do pretty much what ever you want. So take risks. Honestly, it is the blog posts I have taken risks on that I often get the most feedback from my audience. Take risks and more often than not it will be worth it.
I truly hope these blogging tips for beginners helped! Thanks for reading ❤