It is officially November 1st! I can.t believe it. Time is sure flying by! It will be Thanksgiving before you know it. 🙂 Since it is November 1st, I have decided to write 30 things I am thankful for. Here we go……
1. Grief & Mercy Blog Q & A: I Am Answering All Your Questions About Miscarriage, Grief, Healing, Recovery and My Personal Experience
I really enjoyed writing this post. On Instagram a few weeks prior to writing this post, I asked women who have suffered a loss, if they had any questions that they would like me to answer. I truly enjoyed answering all your questions as well as sharing my own experience.
2. My First BIG Opportunity as a Blogger
This post was fun to write because this was my big break. I had no idea when first starting my blog I would be asked to share my story in a magazine and eventually work for that company. It’s honestly another example of the great big plan that God has for me, that I couldn’t see at my very lowest point.
3. Mother’s Day Part 1, 2 and 3
My Mother’s Day posts were pretty popular. I enjoyed writing these posts because I was able to reflect my first Mother’s Day weekend as an Angel Mommy. I divided this post into 3 parts because I didn’t want to overwhelm my readers and honestly each post had a specific purpose. Part 1 was more about strengthening my marriage. Part 2 was about grief and advocacy and Part 3 was about peace and comfort.
4. National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day October 15th
To be honest, before suffering a loss… I had no idea there was a whole month dedicated to Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness. This year, I have looked at the month of October completely differently. This is the month that we remember all the babies gone too soon. I loved writing this post, as I yet again was able to advocate for women who have suffered a loss.
5. The Things to Say and Do After a Woman Has Had a Miscarriage
This post is all about things to say and do after a woman has had a miscarriage. After suffering a loss myself, I realized truly how many people don’t know what to say or how to comfort someone after a loss. I felt it was truly important to write this post so more and more people know how to help an Angel Mommy in her grief.
6. The Decision to Try Again
Writing this post felt like I had reached a moment of peace. I had peace in knowing what had happen, happen for a reason. I also had peace at whatever would happen next.
7. The Best Thing My Husband Ever Told Me After My Miscarriage
This post is one of my personal favorites as, not only does it have one of my favorite engagement photos, but it also allowed me a place to publicly thank my husband for being my rock. Though we have had our ups and downs, Charles has truly been amazing through our loss.
8. A Breakthrough in Counseling and Finding Acceptance
My Breakthrough, a moment I knew I would hit eventually…. when I realized that I had come to a place where I would one day want to try again. I share my Breakthrough in Counseling with all of you to not only break the stigma of counseling, but to also show that with a lot of time and work, healing does happen.
9. Making Peace with God
I was angry…. so incredibly anger. But through a lot of work, I was able to restore my faith and find peace in my heartache. In this post I not only discuss my faith but also about how I came to terms with my loss.
10. Redoing My Home Office
Redoing My Home office was a project I have been wanting to tackle for awhile. This past summer I was able to accomplish this goal. In this post I take you through the various changes and organization to make my home office.
11. Mackenzie’s Stepping Stone and Flower Garden
Creating Mackenzie’s garden was peaceful and unbearable. In this post I discuss the closure that was felt between my family and I as we created Mackenzie’s garden.
12. Reopening My Etsy Shop
Reopening my Etsy Shop was super exciting. I love creating and selling beautiful handmade baby items. Check out how I reopened my shop, and check out my shop link located on my main page and in this post.
13. Trying to Conceive (TTC) Lifestyle
Early morning workouts, prenatal vitamins and positive affirmations are many things I tried while beginning my trying to conceive lifestyle. Check out this post to read more about how I prepared my mind, heart and body for the future.
A Look Ahead…
Taking Pregnancy Tests is Exhausting
The title of this post is pretty self explanatory. Coming soon!
A Weekend Away to Honor My Due Date
A Weekend Away with the girls filled with laughter, coffee, cold mornings, woods, homemade pizza, Lake Michigan, and girl talk. Coming up soon!
Today I will be writing about my friend Andrea. Many of you may have heard me refer to my friend Andrea, or even read her blog post a few weeks ago. This amazing lady and I have been friends for 11 years. We’ve been through a lot together. We’ve seen each other grow, change and even ride the waves of this journey called life. So, without further or do I would like to introduce my friend Andrea.
Andrea is Kind… When Andrea and I met, I personally was preoccupied as I had to pee. However, when I was done Andrea being the kind person she is invited me to play volleyball. This was the very first kind invitation that started our whole friendship. Andrea has done many kind things over the years including volunteering at Operation Christmas Child, babysitting for friends, opening her home to others, and offering to pray for those who are struggling.
Andrea is Funny… I have always said Andrea has the best facial expressions. When she is feeling silly she will make a joke and end with the best facial expression. She cracks me up all the time.
Andrea loves Fellowship… Since we were younger, Andrea has always enjoyed fellowship and good conversation with others. We used to spend hours talking on the phone, and now we send daily Snapchat videos to each other. She loves having a coffee date and enjoying some pleasant conversation with others.
Andrea is a God-Fearing Woman… Andrea loves serving God and showing love to others. She has grown up in the church, studied for years in missionary training, and she loves diving into the word and becoming more intimate in Jesus.
Andrea is a Friend… Like I had mentioned in the beginning, Andrea and I have been friends for years. I have so many memories of sleepovers, late night talks, chocolate parties, watching Christmas movies, playing board games, going for walks, going to church and so many other fun memories growing up.
Andrea is a Mother… Andrea is an incredible mother to her son Azariah and her other little baby girl due in November. She is kind, selfless, energetic, funny, loyal and a strong mother to her beautiful babies. It warms my heart to have been able to watch Andrea to not only grow into a beautiful woman, but also become a strong and devoted wife and mother.
“Puedo tener su numero del telefono? Charles said to me one day as I was gathering my things and leaving our Spanish class 5 years ago.
“What?” I said, not sure what he was saying. I tried, but I was not that good at Spanish.
“Puedo tener su numero del telephono?” He said again, and stared at me looking for an answer.
“I don’t know what you are saying… you want my phone number?” I asked confused and flattered.
“Si” he said excited. I gave him my phone number and went on my way. This was pretty much the conversation that started everything.
After meeting each other on September 4th, 2014…. we became aquaintances. We then began Spanish class buddies and eventually friends.
After asking me out 3 times, I finally said yes and Charles took me out for Indian. It was so sweet, yummy and awkward… but first dates usually are. By November 4th, 2014 we decided to make it official and become boyfriend and girlfriend…. or Novio and Novia.
We dated for a year and 8 months before getting engaged. He was so nervous as we walked through a park downtown, pulled out a ring, got down on one knee and asked me to marry him… of course I said yes. It was the best birthday present I ever received.
Exactly 3 months later, we tied the knot on November 12th, 2016. We had the perfect fall wedding with many of our friends and family in attendance. We got married in the same church my grandparents got married in, and my Daddy gave me away to Charles. It was beautiful.
Before meeting Charles, I had never really considered dating someone let alone marrying someone of a different race. I have always been open to meeting new people no matter what they look like or where they come from, but I honestly just never thought I would be in an interracial relationship.
Dating Charles made me realize we were from two different worlds. There were a lot of cultural differences that I was not at all use to. A lot of slang and phrases Charles would use I didn’t understand, or had never heard before. Thanksgiving was a huge culture shock. I was used to turkey, green bean casserole, mashed potatoes, stuffing, fruit, corn on the cob and pumpkin pie. In Charles very soul food oriented family we had turkey, ham, fried chicken, greens, yams, corn bread, stuffing, mashed potatoes, macaroni and cheese, and cabbage. It was amazing.
When we got married I learned more things about being a black and white interracial couple. For instance people stare at us. Sometimes they are staring at us because we’re cute together, but other times they stare at us with disapproving looks… it’s very uncomfortable.
Regardless of these differences, I truly enjoy being in an interracial marriage. I enjoy being with someone who has a very different background than I, but also shares the same values. For better for worse, for rich or poor, in sickness and in health, black or white…. I love Charles so much and I am honored to be his wife.
On June 15th, I decided to take on a new project and reopen my Etsy Shop. I originally opened this shop a year ago and have only had 2 or 3 sales. So, I decided to shut it down for awhile. However, ever since I started my blog and got more familiar with Instagram, advertising and algorithms… I decided to give my shop another chance.
The last time I opened my shop it was just a variety of different hand knit and crocheted items. However, this time I decided to give my shop a purpose and to solely focus on hand knit and crocheted baby items. I first started with creating baby hats, but have now grown into making headbands, blankets, and even hats for mom and baby. I have learned how to advertise via Instagram and Pintrest, and have had quite a few more sales.
If you are interested in purchasing one of my items…. check out my shop below.
Fall is my Favorite!
Fall is my favorite season. I love everything about fall. Anything from the colorful trees, to the doughnuts… I just love it! Fall is my happy place! Since I love fall so much, I have decided to share my top 10 favorite things about Fall.
My Top 10 Favorite Things About Fall
- Changing Leaves – I love seeing the leaves change in the fall. Here in Michigan it can be absolutely breath taking seeing red, orange, yellow and brown being displayed through out our beautiful state.
- Doughnuts – I would have to admit that doughnuts indeed are my love language. What’s funny is I am really not a bread person. I don’t like a lot of bread but I love the sweet, and fulfilling goodness of a doughnut… especially in the fall.
- Sweater and Hoodie Weather – I love to layer and be comfy in my clothes. I get so excited when it is just cool enough that I can throw on a hoodie, or look stylish and comfy in a sweater, leggings, boots and a beanie.
- Fall Scents – I get so excited to smell fall, I know sounds crazy to say. But I do. I love smelling pumpkin, cinnamon, apple, smores, vanilla and everything in between. I am one of those people who looks forward to a pumpkin spice latte every fall at Biggby. I am also one of those people who enjoys the new fall scents at Bath and Body Works.
- Football Games – I get so hyped for football games at my college. It just feels like fall when I am sitting in the stands, wearing my hoodie and cheering on my team.
- Back to School – Even though it may be stressful for some, back to school just puts me in a good mood. It just feels like a new beginning with new goals and dreams I have yet to accomplish. Plus, I love catching all the good back to school supplies deals.
- The Apple Orchard – I have many fond memories of going to the apple orchard as a child and as an adult. As a child I can recall picking apples, eating doughnuts, going on hay rides and milking a goat. As an adult I can still recall picking apples, eating doughnuts and even accompanying preschoolers on field trips to the apple orchard.
- Fall Vibes – For some reason I feel like here in Michigan, people are a lot happier in the fall than they are in the spring. It’s almost as if many of us Michiganaders enjoy the cool weather of fall right after a hot summer. Whereas we are slightly grumpy in the spring because we are still somewhat holding a grudge after the brutal winter we had just experienced.
- I Met My Husband in the Fall – Someday I will likely share our love story, but for now I will share how we met. My husband and I met on September 4th, in Spanish class at our local community college. I was sitting at a table by myself in the front of the class, and he came to sit by me… and the rest is history.
- My Wedding Anniversary – My Husband and I got married on November 12th , 2016. it was beautifully fall themed with doughtnut holes, apple cider, fall leaves, pumpkins… you name it, we had it. Fall is a very special time for us.
Thanks for reading my Top 10 Favorite Things About Fall! What are your favorite things about Fall?
I know it’s a little late, but I have finally reviewed my summer bucket list and am ready to share with you all the awesome things I accomplished this summer.
Take A Weekend Getaway with my Husband
Some may say Mother’s Day isn’t technically considered summer, however I am a college student and I consider my summer to begin May 1st. Anyway, I am really thankful Charles and I were able to take a weekend trip to the lake shore over Mother’s Day. It was a well needed trip for the both of us. If you interested in reading more about our trip, check out all 3 Mother’s Day posts.
Go to Garage Sales
At the end of June I not only had a garage sale, but I also purused a variety of different garage sales. I love garage sales. I always find so many interesting treasures. In fact at one garage sale I found a tv stand and a clothing rack for just $2! what a great deal!
Visit 10 Different Cafes
Unfortunately, I did not meet my goal of visiting 10 different cafes this summer. However I was able to visit 7. The following is a list of cafes that I did visit, and yes… I do consider a doughnut shop to be a café because they sell specialty coffees 🙂
- Tropical Smoothie Café
- Dunkin’ Doughnuts Café
- Biggby Coffee Café
- Chocolate Factory Café
- Water Street Café
- Casa Café
- Sweetwater’s Doughnut Café
Write 50 Blog Posts
I majorly surpassed this goal, and I am so proud of myself. Instead of writing 50 blog posts, I have actually written 83 so far! What can I say, I’m dedicated
Go to Disneyland
Sadly, my Aunt and I did not make it to Disneyland this Summer. but that’s okay, maybe another time.
See Aladdin in Theaters
I was going to see Aladdin in theaters with my Aunt, but I was too excited and decided to go see it with my husband a week sooner. I was really surprised by how much I loved it! First off, I completely forgot that Will Smith could sing, and let me tell you… he played the part of the genie so incredibly well. I think Robin Williams would be proud. I loved the music and just everything about this movie. It was the perfect balance of new entertainment, and a classic comparison to the cartoon version.
Commit to a Weekly Workout Routine
By mid July, I was getting super nervous I wasn’t going to be able to meet this goal… but I did! In July I started walking around my apartment about 2 miles every other day. In the beginning of August, my friend Alli and I bought a gym membership and have been working out 3 days a week. Each day we focus on a different muscle group: Upper body, Core, Legs and Arms. It has been going great and I hope to continue this routine at least until Christmas.
Reorganize and Decorate my Apartment
This summer I spent a lot of time working on my apartment. I organized closets, got rid of junk and clutter, and bought some great home décor. It was very therapeutic. If you are interested in reading about how I reorganized my home office, then check out my previous post Redoing My Home Office.
Complete My Internship
I really thought I would never finish this internship. I had so many ups and downs in the Spring semester, I was super close to quitting. But I didn’t give up. I completed my internship and I am that much closer to graduation.
See Toy Story 4 in Theaters
The day that Toy Story 4 came out, I went to see it in theaters with my Aunt and my Husband. It was so good! I was slightly nervous going in, considering the fact that it’s the fourth movie, and most movies don’t do that well. But considering the fact that this movie series has Tom Hanks and Tim Allen, I was confident they wouldn’t disappoint. I am not going to give anything away, but the Toy Story movies always leave me with a mix of closure as well as a mix of wanting more. So, who knows? Maybe, just maybe they will come out with another one.
Visit with Old Friends
I wasn’t able to visit with as many old friends as I had wanted, but I am trying to make that a priority as we head into the fall season.
Read 2 New Books
This Summer I read Loved Baby and There was Supposed to Be a Baby. Both of these books were great and I highly recommend them to anyone who has experienced pregnancy loss. If you are interested in reading my book review on Loved Baby, then check out my previous post Love Baby Book Review. My book review on There was Supposed to Be a Baby is coming soon.
There were a few times I was going to go kayaking this summer, but it just didn’t happen.
See a Dog’s Journey in Theaters
I saw A Dog’s Journey in May and it was adorable! I loved how the movie captures what the dog is thinking and the adorable bond between dog and man. It gave me all the feels.
Start Eating Healthier
In alot of ways I have struggled to eat healthier this summer, but in others I have made some progress. I started incorporating more veggies into my diet, and I have tried cutting back on the carbs… especially pasta.
I didn’t reach this goal, as I only lost 7lbs. But that’s okay. I am doing my best to try and not be discouraged, but to keep pushing forward.
By June 2019 my blog and Instagram had really taken off. Parts of me was thankful and overwhelmed by the comments and subscribers I was receiving everyday. However, I also felt a sense of fear and vulnerability that I had never experienced before. In someway I just wanted to throw it all away, my blog and my story, but in others I wanted to keep pushing forward despite my overwhelming feeling of vulnerability. I decided to keep moving forward because I knew somewhere in this world, my story would help someone. I knew in someway, I was making a difference in this world.
After publishing my blog post The Hurtful Things People Say and What Not to Say After a Woman Has Had a Miscarriage, I received a message from Toi Magazine. As I read the message I was paralyzed with excitement and curiosity. The purpose of the message was to inquire if I would be interested in an interview with Toi Magazine and my story of suffering a miscarriage. I couldn.t believe it! I was actually being offered the opportunity to share my story in an international magazine! I had always dreamed of being published, but never knew if it would be possible. I talked over the message with my husband and my parents, then agreed to the interview.
Within two weeks I was sent various interview question prompts that I could do to write and share my story. I was in contact with the editor and expressed to her my gratitude of allowing me such an awesome opportunity to share my story. After I submitted my story, I couldn’t wait to see my article published.
The June/July issue of Toi Magazine was published July 2nd, 2019. I quickly jumped on Instagram and the website and perused the magazine… for a moment I was scared it wasn’t published, but then I found it. Four full pages of my article, my story and my big break.
If you are interested in reading the June/July Issue of Toi Magazine, click the link below.
A few months ago I wrote a blog post titled The Hurtful Things People Say and What not to Say After a Woman Has Had a Miscarriage. I had quite a response to this post, as not only did people find it helpful, but also encouraged me to write a follow up post about Things to Say and Do After a Woman Has Had a Miscarriage. So… here we go.
1. The Best Things You Can Say is “I Love You, I’m Here for You, and I’m Sorry for Your Loss”
Wouldn’t you agree that after someone dies, there’s not really much of anything that people can say to take the pain away. Even though people don’t like to see you hurt, they also don’t know what to say. And when it comes to experiencing a miscarriage, people really don’t know what to say. They can see your grieving, but they don’t feel the loss nearly as deeply because they didn’t meet or have a bond with the life that was once inside you. Unfortunately, our society does not know how to treat miscarriage as a loss or death.
When I was grieving and at my worst, people didn’t know what to say to me either. There were people who said a lot of the wrong things, and there were a lot of people who just left me alone. But the best things people said to me that were not hurtful, did not offer unsolicited advice, and were sensitive were: “I love you, I’m here for you, I’m sorry for your loss, if you ever want to talk let me know, I’m thinking about you and I’m praying for you.”
2. Offering to Clean, Cook and Run Errands.
You know how when someone dies, people make you food? Well, I really appreciated this. I don’t know why food is such a comfort, but it is. It seems that when people don’t know what to say they make food. I had a neighbor make dinner for my husband and I, a yummy dish from the Dominican… it was amazing. Our associate pastor and his wife made us chicken, green beans and potatoes…. so good. My sister in law, who worked all day invited us over and made us a feast! Bless her heart. And my Momma provided me with lots of comfort food when I was recovering from surgery. Food doesn’t make everything better, but in that moment of grief when you need something to numb it for awhile, food helps.
3. Pampering the Angel Mommy
Being pampered by friends and family helped me in many ways. My momma bought me a massage right before Mother’s Day. I had no idea how badly I needed it, until my tears and emotions came out all over the table. My husband went out and bought me chicken wings at midnight when I was having a really emotional night and couldn’t sleep. My bestie Alli came over in the middle of the night and we drove all over town eating Oreos. So many people did kind things for me, when I needed it most, I highly recommend this. Of course I also would recommend proceeding with caution and sensitivity.
4. Providing Space to the Grieving Couple
I feel this is super important. The Momma is not the only one that experiences a pregnancy loss. Sure, she is the only one that experiences the physical pain of loss, but it’s also important to remember that father’s grieve too. I know of many men, my husband included who not only struggle to help their wives grieve, but also felt somewhat disregarded when it came to their grief and emotions. So, it is super important to allow the grieving couple time and space. Even recommending a getaway could be beneficial… but again proceed with caution.
5. Check In
Hearing the worst news, that your baby is gone is heartbreaking. It honestly numbs you. Looking back now, I barely remember the time in between my ultrasound and my surgery, and the whole month of March is a blur. I do remember laying in bed a lot, eating occasionally, crying until my head hurt and listening to sad music. I also remember having people check in. It’s something I would have never asked for, but truly appreciated. I had friends and family call and text me daily just to check in and make sure I was alive. So many of them opened the doors for communication and gave encouraging words to my tender broken heart. I highly recommend checking in on a friend or loved one if they have suffered a loss. It’s not much, but also not to pushy. Even if they don’t respond it is still nice that people care for you when you are feeling so alone, Sure, there were many times I didn’t want to talk, but I still loved that so many people cared. ❤️
6. Be Sensitive with Your Words
This is a big one… and I can’t stress this enough. Please be very careful with your words. After suffering a loss your mind and your heart are in a truly fragile state. It is likely that the grieving mother is heart broken, constantly blaming herself and hating life. So, it is truly important not to contribute to these emotions of anger and sorrow by saying things like “You’re young you’ll have more, or You shouldn’t have stressed yourself out so much, or at least you already have a baby.” For my advice on what not to say after having a miscarriage, check out my additional post at the bottom of this page.
7. Honoring Their Loss
Above anything else I’ve said, I think this is actually the most important. One of the biggest fears that I and so many moms have, is that the child they have lost will be forgotten, as if that little life that lived in them had never existed. It means the world to me when friends and family talk about my baby. It may make me sad and weepy, but also makes me feel loved and my baby never forgotten. I really appreciate it when’s friends and family are sensitive and saying they are thinking of me on holidays and anniversaries, because they know it’s not going to be an easy day for me. Showing love and honoring the baby’s memory is literally the best thing you can do to help a woman after a miscarriage.
I am not an expert or doctor in anyway, just a woman, a writer and a woman who has lost a baby. I hope these little pieces of advice help in some way. If you are reading this and you have suffered an unimaginable lost, I just want to say I’m so sorry for your loss, reach out to me anytime and this was not your fault,
If you are interested in reading about what not to do after a woman has had a miscarriage, check out my post:
There’s just something truly satisfying about organizing and redecorating. This summer since I have had the opportunity to relax and stay home, I have been extremely motivated to organize and redecorate my whole apartment. One of the very first rooms I tackled this summer was my spare room.
My spare room or second bedroom has always kind of been a storage room, but this summer I wanted to turn it into my home office. Before redecorating my home office, I decided not to take any before pictures. It’s not because there wasn’t a huge transformation, but rather I just didn’t feel like showing the whole world my clutter room.
I am very excited about how my office turned out.
I reorganized my desk, put up a bulletin board, and opened up this space to not only make it positive but productive.
I hung twinkle lights under my windowsill and above my desk. I find this calming and comforting. I placed my metal chair and ottoman in the corner for a place to write and blog.
On top of my filing cabinet I have a blessings box. This was a bridal shower gift given to me by my bestie Alli. When Charles and I have something awesome happen, we write it on a card and place it in our blessings box.
This corner still has some storage items. This is where I keep many of my Etsy products as well as just simple storage.
I found this winter painting at an estate sale and absolutely love it! Ya’ll might think I’m crazy for hanging up a winter picture…. but I’m from Michigan and we see snow at least 6 months out of the year.
This cabinet/tv stand I found at a yard sale for $2. I use this to store my books, art supplies, and Etsy inventory.
Thank you all so much for checking out my new home office. I hope you enjoyed it!
“Anyone can be a father… but it takes someone special to be a Dad.” This is something my Dad used to tell me all the time. When I was 6 years old, I met my Dad. He wasn’t my Dad at the time, he was a parent volunteer at my elementary school. He was the parent volunteer that everyone adored. He was tall, goofy, got along with other parents and had a somewhat screwed up sense of humor that would mess with all of our young minds. As much as I had thought he was weird, he still seemed like a good person.
When I was 8 years old and in the third grade, I can recall my mom volunteering a lot more in my school. I loved when my mom would volunteer for my field trips and holiday parties. She loved it too. She loved spending time with me, but also had her eye on the man who would one day become my dad.
One afternoon in the car, I remember my mom asking me if it would be okay if we asked Jeff (the goofy parent volunteer) and his son to walk the holiday Christmas lights downtown. I thought that would be a lot of fun and she said she would do it and say it was my idea. I guess she thought Jeff would be more inclined to say yes… because let’s face it, I was an adorable 8 year old.
Fast forward to when I was 11 years old, in the 6th grade and homeschooled. It was a freezing Ground Hogs day, as my parents got married at the court house. It was the very first wedding I was ever in, as well as the coldest. The way I tell this story is slightly different than the way my dad does. He likes to say him and Mom met in the first grade, started dating in the third grade and got married in the sixth grade. Really, it was us kids who were in grade school, not our parents… but hey, he can tell the story the way he wants to.
From that moment on, my mom, my stepdad and my stepbrother all had the same last name. I was the only one with a different name. I felt very left out. My parents knew how I felt. My mom knew for years that I prayed and wished for a Daddy, and on May 5th 2008 my wish came true. My Daddy adopted me. It was legal. It was official. Blood didn’t matter. I was his daughter and we were family.
My Dad is one of kind. I don’t really know how else to put it. He’s funny… or at least tries to be funny. He’s witty and quick on his feet when it comes to puns, inside jokes and bathroom humor. He’s got a little red neck/country boy in him that likes to show from time to time. He enjoys listening to old country music, watching the Blue Collar comedy tour and Nascar as well as gaining wisdom from those older than him.
He’s hard working… so hard working and doesn’t want to stop working. He works on lawn mowers, collects fire wood, cleans the gutters and gives an oil change to my car all in one day! That’s just how he is and how he was raised. It’s in his genes. He enjoys helping others and providing for his family.
He’s proud. I believe this sense of pride has been passed down to him. My dad is so proud of me. So much so, that I don’t think I deserve it half the time. He’s also proud of his family. He loves my mom dearly, as well as other close friends that we call family. He’s also proud of those who have fought for the freedom of our country.
My Dad and my Grandpa have put on flag retirements for the local community for 20+. years. For those of you who don’t know, a flag retirement ceremony is a ceremony where American flags are burned and disposed of with honor. This is done with honor by playing patriotic music, reading patriotic poems and stories and even thanking the veterans who attend the ceremony.
My Dad has been flying solo during the flag retirements for about the last three years since my Grandpa got sick and passed away in 2017. My Mom, Grandma, brother and I all help him when we can. During each flag retirement, my dad is so incredibly proud and thankful for those who have not only served our country, but also attend these ceremonies in order to honor our veterans.
My Dad is a true patriot. No he didn’t serve in the military, and no he’s not a politician, or some sort of other government worker. He’s my Dad. He’s a retired firefighter who has dedicated his life to helping others, serving his community, being a good husband and being an amazing Dad. So, Dad if you’re reading this, I just want to say thank you. Thank you for your service. You make me proud. ❤️
I was nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award by Ilona Madam over at easydiet.blog. Thank you Ilona so much for this nomination! It truly means a lot. In fact this is the very first blog award nomination I have ever received, so thank you! And for those of you who are reading, please take a minute to go check out her blog. She’s great!
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- What is your favorite health food or snack? There are so many choices, but I honestly love snacking on a ripe avocado 🥑. .
- What is your favorite place to visit? I love up north Michigan, especially in Fall when the leaves are changing 🍁.
- What is the best thing about van life? I have no idea what this question is… but I think if I had a van, I’m sure I would enjoy it. 😇
- What was your very first pet? A cat who hated me. His name was Big Kitty 🐱.
- What is your favorite movie? Hmmm…. it’s always changing. If you ask my husband he’d say any Disney movie, But I guess I would have to go with my all time favorite Disney’s Tarzan 🏰.
- Why did you start blogging? I started blogging as a therapeutic way to cope with my grief after suffering a miscarriage. I didn’t really think it would amount to much or people would even read it. But honestly I have really enjoyed blogging, and have even turned it into a platform of advocating and helping other women of whom have experienced loss 💻.
- Is family very important to you? Yes, family is everything to me. I wouldn’t be where I am today without them. ❤️
- What does life mean to you? This is a super deep question. I guess life to me means we all have a purpose and are all meant to love one another as God has shown His love for us ⛪️.
- What is your favorite thing to do when traveling? Taking pictures and trying new food 🥘.
- What do you love the most about blogging? Purpose and Growth.
- Who is your inspiration? My Mom. She’s incredible. 🧡
I honestly feel really weird listing off 11 bloggers for this award. Truthfully, there are so many amazing bloggers out there, and so many blogs I have yet to discover. So if you are reading this… consider yourself nominated. Also, I am keeping the same questions since I think they’re great. 🙂
I was seriously starting to feel like this day would never come. I started my internship at a government agency on January 8th, 2019. I started this adventure the day before I got pregnant. I switched internship sites around February 7th… when I was 8 weeks into my pregnancy. After many, many extensions, missed and made up hours, meetings, projects, papers, presentations and an incomplete… I officially did it. I completed my 6 credit internship! There were so many times I thought I would fail or just give up… but I didn’t.
I am so grateful for my internship and all that I have learned. Even though I had other crazy personal obstacles and traumas that were going on, I was still able to find value in my work at my internship. Being a Sexual Assault Peer Educator taught me how to be an advocate, not just for survivors of sexual assault but also in my line of work of advocating for women and children’s health, and women of whom have suffered a miscarriage and infant loss. This internship also taught me valuable coping skills, how to heal through my personal trauma, as well as how to help others after suffering a trauma… and for that I am eternally grateful. ❤️
After my miscarriage, I was very angry with God. I appreciated people who prayed for me, but I did not want to hear of God’s promises or biblical scripture. I was having a crisis of faith. Eventually, I was able to find joy and forgiveness in God and what He has planned for me. The following is a list biblical scriptures that I found helpful after my miscarriage. My hope is that if you are reading this… you can also find joy and comfort in these scriptures.
“Yet those who wait for the Lord, will gain new strength. They will mount up with wings like eagles. They will run and not get tired. They will walk and not become weary.” – Isaiah 40:31
“When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.” – Psalms 56:3
“God is within her, she will not fall. God will help her at break of day.” – Psalm 46:5
“Blessed are those who mourn for they will be comforted.” – Matthew 5:4
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:6 – 7
“Cast all your anxiety on him, because he cares for you.” – 1 Peter 5:7
“Be still, and know that I am God.” – Psalm 46:10
As an aspiring Family Life Educator, I have been educated on and practically had the importance of self care drilled into my head. Self care is basically what an individual chooses to do in order to take care of themselves. Self care is extremely important for your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health as well as every aspect of our lives. It is also very important and highly encouraged in order to avoid burn out and compassion fatigue.
Below is my own personal self care plan.
My Self Care Plan
– Drinking plenty of water, 4 – 8 glasses a day.
– Eating Healthy, incorporating fruits and veggies into my diet.
– Exercise, Walking, Yoga, and Stretching
– Writing in my journal or blog.
– Spending time with friends and family
– Listening to music
– Binge watching Netflix
– Organizing my planner
– Going to Counseling
– Enjoying quiet moments
– Knitting and Crocheting
– Enjoying a Fresh cup of coffee
– Attending Hockey Games
– Going on Dates with my husband
– Meeting up with old friends
– Reading my bible
– Going to church
– Enjoying fellowship with other believers.
Now it’s your turn! What’s your self care plan? What are some activities you do in order to relax and recharge? Whether you are a new mom, an author, retired, a work-a-holic or anything in between, I can guarantee we all can benefit from self care. With that being said…..
What kind of activities do you do in order to help your physical health?
What kind of activities do you do in order to help your emotional health?
What kind of activities do you do in order to help your mental health?
What kind of activities do you do in order to help your social life?
What kind of activities do you do in order to help your spiritual life?
I challenge YOU to write out your own self care plan. Once it is complete put it in a place where you see it and can be reminded daily to take care of YOU. If you need ideas of various self care activities, feel free to check out my previous post on 25 Self Care Ideas to Try This Summer.
I would love to hear from YOU! Feel free to comment or message me your self care ideas and activities you do in order to take care of YOU!