The next few days are a blur. I stayed with my parents until Charles returned from Washington Monday March 4th. I spent that time at my parents resting, watching movies, eating comfort food, and coloring. Time felt so slow. The days blended together. There were many people who called and messaged to see how I was doing. So many people meant well, but simply didn’t know what to say or said the wrong thing. While others stayed away because they were afraid.
One night when I couldn’t sleep, I did some research. I was searching for local and global support for people who have suffered a miscarriage. While looking on Facebook, I stumbled across the Miscarriage Matters Support Group. This is a closed group on Facebook designed for women who have recently suffered a miscarriage. It is a safe place for women to vent, ask questions and just talk about what we are going through. I asked to join the group, and thankfully I was accepted.
If you interested in learning more about Miscarriage Matters Inc. I have provided a link to their website below.
The first week of March, Charles and I were on spring break from school. I hated that all of this had happened, but I was slightly thankful we were on spring break and I could heal physically before going back to school. Over spring break, Charles and I went over to our Associate Pastor’s house for dinner. The Reverend and his wife were so kind and loving. I felt terrible for hurting and not really enjoying myself, but I was thankful for their love and support.
That weekend we also went over to my sister-in-law’s house. She also made us dinner and gave us much love and support. A majority of the evening was spent with us hanging out with our niece and nephews, as well as watching a funny movie. We didn’t really talk about the miscarriage, we more less just tried to find some sort of joy in my world of sadness,
After sharing my story of pregnancy loss on Facebook, I received many personal messages of sympathy, compassion and even other women who have experienced it too. As I read the personal messages I received, as well as hearing from the women in my support group…. I realized something. Miscarriage is a lot more common than most people realize. In fact it’s more common than I had ever realized. If 25% of pregnancies end in miscarriage and 1 in 4 women experience miscarriage, then why don’t we talk about it? Why don’t we hear more about miscarriage? This saddened me… but I didn’t know how to fix it.
“I felt like I had failed because I didn’t know how common miscarriages were because we don’t talk about them.” – Michelle Obama